There’s a little part of your brain called the reticular activating system (ARAS) which acts as a filter for finding funny!
When you make finding humor intentional, your brain will start showing you things you’ve found amusing in the past.
It’s kind of like the internet!
Have you ever been shopping for something on the internet? Let’s say some shoes.
You do your research and think about buying them. Then decide, well…I really don’t have the cash flow right now; I think I’ll hold off.
Then you close the page and go to one of your favorite news websites…
BOOM! There’s an ad with those shoes staring right at you!
That’s kind of what the reticular activating system is doing for your brain. Oh, you found something funny over here, well check this out!
The key is to be intentional!
If you set your intention on seeing more humor, your reticular activating system will show it to you more often!
Pretty cool if you ask me!
So, you want to make people laugh, huh? That’s easy! Okay, maybe not. But don’t worry! I’m here to help. Let’s dive into some scenarios and I’ll give you some things to keep in mind before your meeting, performance, company party, or whatever you’ve got going on!
There are a lot of steps to leveraging other people’s laughter. So, let’s break it down.
The setting matters! Things that are allowed to be said during a performance versus a business meeting are COMPLETELY different.
Before letting all of your family holiday party jokes fly, consider your audience. If you have to think about whether or not something is appropriate—play it safe and leave it out. You’re a creative person! Find a better alternative.
When I’m speaking to nursing and healthcare professionals, certain issues are always top of mind for my audience. At a macro level, their major concerns revolve around the state of flux in healthcare today.
On a day-to-day level, their concerns turn toward stress related to
I come in and talk to leaders in organizations or staff about how to take better care of themselves, so that they, in turn, can take better care of others.
1. Stress management/self-care
You don’t want someone taking care of you or a loved one who’s stressed out, sick or tired.
If the answer isn’t obvious enough, studies (NCBI.gov) have shown that people who are stressed tend to:
My friend and fellow medical professional, Dr. Lee Berk said it best when he said: “if we took what we now know about laughter and bottled it up it would require FDA approval.” It’s true that when we laugh, we feel better. There’s a reason why Facebook is clogged with funny cat videos and those “fail” videos that always seem to hurt a little but ultimately are just there to make us laugh.
So, my question to you is, would you rather go to the gym and sit on the rowing machine for 30 minutes, or would you rather sit down on your couch and put on a really funny movie? Now, I’m not judging if you chose to go to the gym, but I feel like most people out there (including myself) would decide to put on their favorite, belly-ache inducing, movie and call it a day.
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